what matters most: part ii
December 15, 2011 § 6 Comments
For the past nine months, I have struggled with the idea of going to Asia to work. I whined about how easy it is for guys to find supportive wives and how hard it is for women to find supportive husbands. I went through a break up. I cried. By now, I have told everybody: no, I’m not going. And I feel okay. Which is really amazing.
A couple possible reasons for why I feel okay.
+ Two years ago, a very senior person at Manulife moved his family for his job. His daughter was unhappy. Recently, his wife and daughter moved back to where they came from. Gender roles or not, optimizing career and family is a crazy thing that may or may not work out.
+ For the past month, I have been dating someone that did long distance so that the girl he was seeing can be adventurous with her career. The relationship did not work out. Supportive or not, optimizing career and family is a crazy thing that may or may not work out.
No, you can’t always get what you want
You can’t always get what you want
You can’t always get what you want
And if you try sometime you find
You get what you need
keen keen :) 
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